How To Tell If He's a Player - Are You Being Played?
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Games and game players are abound in the world of dating but what is a game player and how do you spot one?
A game player is someone who manipulates events by applying considerable forethought to how they intend to snare you. For the master gamer, a set of rules are followed which promise to yield greater success than merely going with the flow and seeing what happens.
A player may have learned that anticipation is a great aphrodisiac and deliberately keep their mate waiting before sexual intimacy is engaged in. A non-player however may be waiting because they are not ready or because they believe a respectable amount of time must pass before taking the relationship to the next level.
Women are master game players but that is because they are subtler and their games are more elaborate than those of a man. They may feign disinterest, practice an air of mystique, and generally be too fabulous and busy to be easily available when you call or request a date. They may of course just not be interested, which is what makes a player harder to spot as they blend quite easily into may categories of female from the genuine to the disinterested and you have to learn how to tell the difference.
If you are in any doubt as to whether your aloof girlfriend is really disinterested or is playing you, then try not calling her for a week and see what response you get. It is likely a player will begin to get anxious if her games are not yielding any fruit and she feels your interest is waning. She will thus contact you and be more 'giving' of her time. A genuinely disinterested female will merely be happy with the absence of your calls and not get back to you. This may not be what you want but at least you know once and for all where you stand.
Men's games are generally designed not to snare you (which is the case for women) but to deter you from seeking commitment. They may only desire casual friendship and sex but need to provide you with enough emotional response to keep you fulfilling their needs yet maintain that distance which prevents anything more serious developing.
Fortunately for women, male players are easier to identify. They will not introduce you to their family and friends, not take you out on dates and leave large gaps between responding to calls and texts. They may explicitly state that they do not want anything heavy, but at the same time they know what keeps you coming back from more is the 'hope' that one day that situation will change. If you say you are missing them at any point, you may find a decrease in calls and visits as they feel you are getting too 'clingy' and may want more of their time, which they are not prepared to give.
If you think you are being played remove yourself from the game and see what happens. Your absence will either be missed or welcomed.
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Article submitted Thursday, August 27, 2009 & read 2091 times.
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» left by John Wilder(182)(3 days 20 hours ago.)
Great article. We all need to be more proactive and more protective of ourselves and our hearts before jumping into bed. Kudos on a great articleRespond to this comment
