Go Fish! Some Thoughts to Consider Before Online Dating

So, you have decided that the time is right to “go fish”. Catching fish requires bait. It all starts with the dating profile. How and what you write in your profile, your “bait” will determine the type of fish you catch and whether or not it will get cast back into the waters without another thought or perhaps land in the bucket for entertainment and gawking purposes before it gets cast back.. A “quickie” profile is most likely to result in an empty bucket at the end of the day.

Much thought and consideration should go into a profile for reasons that that go beyond the fact that you are hoping to catch the fish that will lovingly swim by your side through the murky waters of life, with guppies in tow. I do need to say that even the most thought out profiles often result in an empty bucket at the end of the day. The ocean is full of sharks that are very aggressive.

One must be aware of what lurks in the ocean when they cast out their bait. The ocean is full of beautiful sea creatures that exist in all their glory, doing what they do best as they complement their place of existence. These particular creatures that I speak of are fairly grounded and have the ability to take pleasure in the simple things in life. They enjoy connecting in a sincere way with the other sea creatures. They are interested in the world around them and live harmoniously among all the other living creatures. They care about the needs of others and of the ocean community in which they live. They are joyful and full. They look for ways in which they can give of themselves.

Lurking among all the beautiful sea creatures are the wide eyed predators that slowly canvas the ocean floor in search of opportunity. These predators can be found anywhere. They are here today and there tomorrow and somewhere else the next day. They do not have an ocean community in which they thrive and they do not connect with any of the other sea creatures. Unable to recognize the simple pleasures in life, they feel no joy and are driven by the dominance that they hold over the other  creatures in the sea. Inside they are empty and dead. They are in a constant state of search but they have no clue what it is that they are looking for. They seek to find the very creature, place or thing that will fill up the empty dark space inside.

The predators, recognized by those who truly know them as creatures to be feared and avoided are not seen the same way by all. Because of their uncanny ability to read others and to fit into any situation of interest, they are often not spotted as predators. Through the use of clever manipulation and deceit they gain the trust that is needed to establish them in the place of their choosing. So clever, witty and charming are they that they are able to quickly identify and meet the needs of who or whatever will eventually serve their purpose.

Purpose having been served, the predator leaves casualties behind in a thick trail of sand that are all forgotten before the sand can hit the ocean floor. Not only are the casualties forgotten but so are the prescious commodities that were taken. Following his consumption, on he moves, oblivious to what he has done. He continues his never ending, elusive search for the thing that will fill the big, dark, empty hole inside. He is bored and restless and moves about aimlessly with no awareness of the needs of anyone or anything but his own. He has nothing to give and will take everything. Don’t show him what you got.

» left by Anonymous (2 years 256 days ago.)

This author does a wonderful job of portraying the difference between well adjusted people and ones with personality disorders. This article provides important information in a fun and entertaining way. Great article Beaulah!

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» left by Nenita Wells from Providence, RI (2 years 254 days ago.)

Hi Beaulah.

 

I have been in that very same "ocean floor" and fortunately for me, I was able to discern the difference between the "predators" and the "fairly grounded sea creatures". I am amazed how the comparison worked out so well. Thanks for a well written article. I truly enjoyed reading it.

 

Sincerely,

 

Nenita

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