Why Men Stare At Other Women and Why Their Wives Hate It!
by Leah Gag Cartoonist (962)
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Some men habitually stare at other women when they are out and about with their wife or girlfriend. This often meets with criticism from the female partner.
Men that behave like this often reply to this criticism with:
" We’re men, that's what we do " .
It's not true that ALL men stare at other women when out with their partners though, so no, it's not what ALL men do.
I myself have dated a few chaps and out of those chaps, only two have made it obvious to me that they were looking at or staring at other women. In some cases I haven't commented as I was staring too. Often there is a reason to stare, though being discreet about it is always on my mind. Less so on the guy’s minds I fear.
How do I get my boyfriend to stop staring at other women?
Meanwhile, when your boyfriends staring at other women makes you feel uncomfortable it's time to ask them to stop.
I have found that it's quite easy to explain to men how to deal with their antisocial behaviour (because that is what it is, the women being stared at don't like it either) by explaining it to them thus:
When I see an attractive male walking by, I clock him. I then remind myself I am with my love and that my life won't be any worse for not having a second look. So I take the decision out of respect for my boyfriend not to look back or stare.
I put it to the men who stare at women that they can quite easily exercise the same amount of control, respect and do the same.
Why does my wife hate it when I stare at other women?
Meanwhile a lot of guys who stare at other women when out with their partner don’t understand why their women object. The reasons often surprise them.
Women are very competitive creatures and there is nothing worse than a woman feeling that another woman has got one up on her. In this case that would be the woman attracting her man's attention. The other woman will feel the stares, sees the man is with a woman and will feel dominant and glad that she is more attractive than the man's wife.
This might not be correct on either count, but in the wife’s mind, this will be one of the reasons why she's not happy for her man to make it so obvious to other women he's looking at them.
It also makes women feel more unattractive the more attention their men pay other women.
As such the behaviour is very demoralizing and disrespectful and men should try to avoid making it obvious if they can't refrain all together when out with their wives and girlfriends.
That is if you want to keep them as your wife or girlfriend!
Leah
Article submitted Thursday, September 10, 2009 & read 7087 times.
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» left by Dee from Ohio (180 days 4 hours ago.)
Men tend not to understand that this action is blatant disrespect towards their wives and girlfriends. Then, they'll try and make you believe that it's the nature of the beast. Well guess what, none of them can make believe that they can't control themselves. They just don't respect the ones they supposedly love -- that's all there is to it!Women shouldn't let them get away with it. Men will only get away with what women let them.Why did you get me started?Respond to this comment
» left by Leah Gag Cartoonist (962)
Hi Dee
You are so right! Feel free to let off steam anytime :) Thanks for commenting.
Leah
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» left by Anonymous (31 days 11 hours ago.)
Don't let us get away with it. Leave. Other woman checking out your boyfriend should also be a problem but we don't hear as much about that... perhaps it's because woman like other woman checking out their boyfriend... it makes them feel like the "won". Something that woman apparently need to feel good about a relationship.
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» left by Rick Vidallon from Virginia Beach (179 days 2 hours ago.)
That's why God created sunglasses. eh?Respond to this comment
» left by Leah Gag Cartoonist (962)
Add a neck collar too, so the old 'looking back' ceases to be a problem!
Leah
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» left by Anonymous (169 days ago.)
men who stare when they are with their wives or girlfriends are jerks and disrespectful.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (158 days 20 hours ago.)
you are right its not about jeaslousy or control its about the respect you give a person when you are with them
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» left by Anonymous (31 days 12 hours ago.)
let's not forget that some woman are so insecure that every attractive woman that comes into their boyfriends field of view is seen as being "stared" at. The world is as we see it. If we believe that we are "less" of a woman or "less" attractive or desireable than others than we will believe that our sig other is checking out other people all the time. My girlfriend accuses me of this quite often(especially while emotionally compromised by menstration). The result of these accusations is 1) I realize that we have totally differnent tastes in woman( as who she thinks I was staring at almost never makes it into my mental radar) and 2) I have lost trust in her as I see this as her believing that I am thinking like her ... waiting for the next better thing to come along.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (31 days 10 hours ago.)
So... woman get off on drawing the stares of non-single men( "will feel dominant and glad that she is more attractive than the man's wife") ... it all a competition thing then ... woman want what other woman have... and then turn around and get mad when it happens to them. That's logical...cripeRespond to this comment
» left by maria gabbard from indianapolis (23 days 5 hours ago.)
My husband is almost 60 and he is still looking at other women always. He always denies it but I know he doesit always. Today is February 14th and we were at church. Not even because we were at church he stopped. I dont understand why men do this. He knows I hate it, is he trying to make me mad ? or maybe to get tired of him and leave?
what do you think? Please advise!
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» left by Anonymous (11 days 2 hours ago.)
Who cares what he is trying to do? Think about what you are trying to do: Love a man that doesn't respect you! And if this takes place in church with you -- what else is he doing without you outside of church?
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