Why Men Stare At Other Women and Why Their Wives Hate It!
by Leah Gag Cartoonist(1,021)
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Some men habitually stare at other women when they are out and about with their wife or girlfriend. This often meets with criticism from the female partner.
Men that behave like this often reply to this criticism with:
" We’re men, that's what we do " .
It's not true that ALL men stare at other women when out with their partners though, so no, it's not what ALL men do.
I myself have dated a few chaps and out of those chaps, only two have made it obvious to me that they were looking at or staring at other women. In some cases I haven't commented as I was staring too. Often there is a reason to stare, though being discreet about it is always on my mind. Less so on the guy’s minds I fear.
How do I get my boyfriend to stop staring at other women?
Meanwhile, when your boyfriends staring at other women makes you feel uncomfortable it's time to ask them to stop.
I have found that it's quite easy to explain to men how to deal with their antisocial behaviour (because that is what it is, the women being stared at don't like it either) by explaining it to them thus:
When I see an attractive male walking by, I clock him. I then remind myself I am with my love and that my life won't be any worse for not having a second look. So I take the decision out of respect for my boyfriend not to look back or stare.
I put it to the men who stare at women that they can quite easily exercise the same amount of control, respect and do the same.
Why does my wife hate it when I stare at other women?
Meanwhile a lot of guys who stare at other women when out with their partner don’t understand why their women object. The reasons often surprise them.
Women are very competitive creatures and there is nothing worse than a woman feeling that another woman has got one up on her. In this case that would be the woman attracting her man's attention. The other woman will feel the stares, sees the man is with a woman and will feel dominant and glad that she is more attractive than the man's wife.
This might not be correct on either count, but in the wife’s mind, this will be one of the reasons why she's not happy for her man to make it so obvious to other women he's looking at them.
It also makes women feel more unattractive the more attention their men pay other women.
As such the behaviour is very demoralizing and disrespectful and men should try to avoid making it obvious if they can't refrain all together when out with their wives and girlfriends.
That is if you want to keep them as your wife or girlfriend!
Leah
Article submitted Thursday, September 10, 2009 & read 9635 times.
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» left by Dee from Ohio (323 days 19 hours ago.)
Men tend not to understand that this action is blatant disrespect towards their wives and girlfriends. Then, they'll try and make you believe that it's the nature of the beast. Well guess what, none of them can make believe that they can't control themselves. They just don't respect the ones they supposedly love -- that's all there is to it!Women shouldn't let them get away with it. Men will only get away with what women let them.Why did you get me started?Respond to this comment
» left by Leah Gag Cartoonist(1,021)
Hi Dee
You are so right! Feel free to let off steam anytime :) Thanks for commenting.
Leah
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» left by Anonymous (175 days 3 hours ago.)
Don't let us get away with it. Leave. Other woman checking out your boyfriend should also be a problem but we don't hear as much about that... perhaps it's because woman like other woman checking out their boyfriend... it makes them feel like the "won". Something that woman apparently need to feel good about a relationship.
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» left by Anonymous (116 days 5 hours ago.)
No, you"re wrong. It is disrespectfu to the woman and causes discontentment in men. I am not leaving my husband over his staring, I just do it too! It makes me feel better. The more he does it, the more I notice other men. They notice me too, which is great! Everybody wins. But I have to say, there have been a couple of men I would like to know a little better, hmmm?? I am sure my husband won't mind because he understands, right? I mean,what can he say he does it. He can't blame me for doing what he does, can he? He gives me the right to do it. See, woman do think like men. How funny!
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» left by Myra B. from Shreveport la (85 days 13 hours ago.)
I totally agree with you. They totally cannot handle it when we do it. Guess what i tried this technique and it works. Bet it made him feel like crap! Lol!
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» left by Rick Vidallon from Virginia Beach (322 days 18 hours ago.)
That's why God created sunglasses. eh?Respond to this comment
» left by Leah Gag Cartoonist(1,021)
Add a neck collar too, so the old 'looking back' ceases to be a problem!
Leah
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» left by Anonymous (312 days 16 hours ago.)
men who stare when they are with their wives or girlfriends are jerks and disrespectful.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (302 days 11 hours ago.)
you are right its not about jeaslousy or control its about the respect you give a person when you are with them
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» left by Anonymous (175 days 3 hours ago.)
let's not forget that some woman are so insecure that every attractive woman that comes into their boyfriends field of view is seen as being "stared" at. The world is as we see it. If we believe that we are "less" of a woman or "less" attractive or desireable than others than we will believe that our sig other is checking out other people all the time. My girlfriend accuses me of this quite often(especially while emotionally compromised by menstration). The result of these accusations is 1) I realize that we have totally differnent tastes in woman( as who she thinks I was staring at almost never makes it into my mental radar) and 2) I have lost trust in her as I see this as her believing that I am thinking like her ... waiting for the next better thing to come along.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (175 days 1 hour ago.)
So... woman get off on drawing the stares of non-single men( "will feel dominant and glad that she is more attractive than the man's wife") ... it all a competition thing then ... woman want what other woman have... and then turn around and get mad when it happens to them. That's logical...cripeRespond to this comment
» left by maria gabbard from indianapolis (166 days 20 hours ago.)
My husband is almost 60 and he is still looking at other women always. He always denies it but I know he doesit always. Today is February 14th and we were at church. Not even because we were at church he stopped. I dont understand why men do this. He knows I hate it, is he trying to make me mad ? or maybe to get tired of him and leave?
what do you think? Please advise!
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» left by Anonymous (154 days 17 hours ago.)
Who cares what he is trying to do? Think about what you are trying to do: Love a man that doesn't respect you! And if this takes place in church with you -- what else is he doing without you outside of church?
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» left by Anonymous (121 days 23 hours ago.)
women this is fallen male sexual nature! we love variety - there can never be enough. some men don't restrain themselves, but many do - and it's a daily struggle. So, ladies do everything you can to keep your man looking at you!Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (119 days 21 hours ago.)
That's even more deflating for a woman, to feel they have made the best of themselves only to find their men are still finding other women more attractive!
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» left by Anonymous (43 days 18 hours ago.)
So it's men's nature not to be able to control or restrain themselves, even if it's demeaning, hurtful and disrespectful to their wife or girlfriend? (And if a guy is staring THAT long that you notice it, there's something f'd up about that okay? If someone you find attractive crosses your path, okay, you're gonna glance, but do you have to look like a wolf in a cartoon with your tongue rolling out onto the floor and your eyes bulging out of your head?)
Then you tell women "do everything you can to keep your man looking at you?" Like we have to jump through hoops to hold a guy's attention when if it's their NATURE to act like hormonal teenage boys, they're going to continue their juvenile behavior and you can't win anyway? And we're supposed to just accept this?
How about if your woman beds every interested guy that crosses her path and she says, "It's just a woman's nature to respond to a man's attention," you gonna be okay with that when your wife or girlfriend starts coming up with lame excuses to cover her disrespectful behavior towards you? How about if these type of guys 'grow up' and realize that probably 10x out of 10 the women they're staring at wouldn't give them the time of day to begin with?
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» left by Anonymous (38 days 10 hours ago.)
My guess is that its about the objectification of women. Women are trained (through this f'd up planet) to try and look as hot and sexy as possible. Men are trained (through this f'd up planet) to be attracted to thin blondes (okay, I'm generalizing a bit) I think it's hard for men to stop a habit that was formed and encouraged from puberty. Men have to fight for sex (well most) Women can typically get it whenever they want. Men are always on the look out for the next best/ better/ bigger boobed/ more beautiful/ more sexual (at least for that moment) thing! So complicated, right? I think the best thing you can do is (if you want to maintain a loving healthy relationship) be respectful of your partner and his/her needs. If he/she suggests there is a problem w/ looking... there probably is! Be open, honest. Stop denying. And, for God's sake, stop "checking out". We all have varying levels of how we spot and look at attractive people. We aren't blind! It's ALL about respect of your partner. The tiny pleasure you gain from checking out at an attractive person is not worth the love, respect and intimacy of your life partner.Respond to this comment
» left by Lee C from united kingdom (35 days 7 hours ago.)
My partner has always been a "starer". I gather it got him a few black eyes in his younger days when he was in pubs and night clubs. Irrate boyfriends used to object to him looking too long at their women....so its not just some partners who dont like men to "look" too long. Guys DONT like it either when its not them doing it but its directed at their girlfriends by another man.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (7 days 18 hours ago.)
men justify this behaviour by saying that it is part of their genetic makeup and blah blah blah. I certainly dont believe that , when my bf looks at another women i feel devalued and that im not good enough for him or that he wants to rather be with that person. If i nag to much i feel like im acting insecure which i am when it comes to this subject. He doesnt look so much anymore , but a women comes by he closes his eyes and says that he does this incase he mistakenly looks. this angers me as well because i feel as if im imprisoning him . Which i dont wnat to do . It causes many arguments. I guess i just feel this way because i dont feel good enough for him.Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (7 days ago.)
My husband does the same things that are listed above. When we are in the mall or wherever in public, he always walks behind me. When I turn around, I am constantly seeing him checking out someone. I think this is ridiculous and very disrespectful. The way I fell about it, is that if I am not good enough for him to look at, then maybe he should move on. I have been married for 14 years and this started happening probably about the 2nd or 3rd year of marriage. I have told him before that it bothers me and I get the statement: "I wasn't looking" or when I ask him if he "got a good look", he will say "there was a girl?" Come on now. I am not blind. I love him more than anything but I cannot deal with this disrespect any longer. Oh, and the latest statement I got from him was " the only time I see good looking chicks is when you are with me." There came a point last summer when he was very very close to wrecking his motorcycle because he was looking at college chicks and the car in front of him stopped and he was unaware of it. I think that is a little pathetic.
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