Are You Meeting The Needs Of Your Spouse?
by Beth Kade(7)It is easy to know what your needs are at any given moment. The problem in a relationship is not knowing what your partner's needs are at any given moment.
Think about it this way the next time you have a disagreement. Do you know what your spouse needs at that moment? Chances are your spouse feels the same way not knowing what it takes to meet your needs.
What are the main needs of men and women? Typically men and women are universal meaning that women have much of the same needs and men all have the same needs. What are those needs?
Typically, women have four major needs. Granted each woman is not the same so it might be a good time to take this list to your significant other and find out what is true and what isn't.
1. Security-women need security. Security in this situation is financially as well as relationally. Women want to feel safe and taken care of by their spouse. It sounds like a fairy tale, but they have a ingrained need to be protected. If you are having financial troubles or relationship troubles, shower them with the other three needs so that they realize they are loved.
2. Conversational Companionship-Women want to be heard. That means turning off the t.v. or computer and making eye contact when she talks. It also means listening and interacting as if you care.
3. Significance-Women need to feel important or valued. Take the time out to show the woman in your life that she is appreciated. Notice something she has worked hard on or compliment her on something she has done.
4. Affection-Women want to be treasured by a man. The one thing I value the most in my relationship is that my husband and I still hold hands in public. Show affection every day.
Men also have needs. Of course, I went to my husband to know what those needs are since I was clueless.
1. Respect-Men need to feel like they are respected. If they are not feeling respected at work, make sure they are definitely at home. They need to feel like you respect their opinions, thoughts and actions.
2. Sex-Men feel important and loved when they have a healthy sex life. This is not just sex, either. Men want intimacy too. In fact, men feel more intimate during sex then other times.
3. Significant-Men need to feel needed. They need to feel like they are able to take care of things or fix things. They need to feel like they are winners and as cliche as it sounds, "Manly!"
Of course, not all women and men are the same so I really suggest sitting down with your mate and discussing what makes them feel loved. Then take the necessary steps to make sure your partner knows he or she is loved.
Article submitted Thursday, September 24, 2009 & read 27 times.
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