Premature Ejaculation: How Do You Handle It?
by Efoghor Joseph Eziejossyhealth
Premature ejaculation can be so frustrating because it makes both partners not to enjoy sex the way they should. It also brings some feeling of guilt and insufficiency to the man, and makes the woman feel unloved.
How it can be handled
This problem can be taken care of by the mutual co-operation of the couple. The man can do a lot to help himself so he and his wife could both enjoy intimate love and passionate sex. Some of the things he can do include:
2. Investigate the cause: Premature ejaculation could be organic; but most times they are as a result of fears and tension. The man who has had it once is likely to have it again if he believes that it is going to repeat. Tiredness is also a contributory factor: when a man comes back home too tired after the day's job he is likely to experience premature ejaculation if he makes love to his wife without first resting his body. If the cause or contributory factor is determined it becomes easier to handle the problem. They may see the doctor to be sure the problem is not organic.
3. He should stop alcohol: If the man is used to taking alcoholic beverages, he should stop as alcohol is know to contribute to premature ejaculation.
The woman now comes in to help the man out. The problem affects both of them because none is enjoying sex to its optimum. She can help the husband out by doing the following:
1. Reassure him: The only person that can make the man regain his confidence and self-esteem is the wife. She needs to let the man know she believes he can get rid of the problem. She should show him understanding and patience. If the man knows that the wife is lovingly by his side and willing to help him overcome the problem he becomes more relax to handle it
2. Fondle the man's penis: The wife should fondle the husband's penis during foreplay to make him regain full control. She should fondle him many times before entry without actually causing him to ejaculate outside the vagina. Even if he ejaculates accidentally it should not be a cause for worry. The man should tell his wife to stop when he begins to feel to ejaculate. The fondling and relaxation should be continued until he regains self control. If he regains full control and does not spill outside the vagina he can then penetrate and enjoy sex with his wife.
3. Friendly environment: Create a friendly environment and play together during the day. Closeness should not only be during sex but should be a habit and when you are friends it is easier to trust in yourselves and the solution you proffer to a problem.
Article submitted Wednesday, March 10, 2010 & read 3426 times.
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