Cooking for one
by HM WeimarI never realized how small my refrigerator was until I had to start storing all the extra meals I was creating. This divorce has even effected how I cook. I used to cook for so many people, now with him gone, my kids are older and off doing their own thing and going to their dad’s, sometimes it’s just me. I have to even adjust my cooking because the left over’s won’t fit anymore.
We all know that our lives will be changing when we decide to kill a marriage but we don’t think about all the little changes it has to offer us. I actually noticed that bills for water and electricity were cut more than a third, he was only one person, how did that happen? Then I realized that we were all actually home more when he was here. I was home more, the kids seemed to be home more. Not only did the cooking need to change but every aspect of our lives changed, the budget, the groceries even television time. I get to watch what I want now instead of having to decide together. Decisions don’t need to be run through him either.
As we move through the grieving stages I suppose this would be an area that would help us move into the acceptance stage. We start to enjoy the fact that there is either less to do, we have more money or we get to watch what we want. But this could also lead to more anger stages or flashbacks. We could either take the step to enjoy our time alone or the extras we now have or we can take a step back wards and wish that we had someone to help us. I for one seem to take the them as positive moves because I know if I don’t that it will make everything worse. As I tell my friends, " you take that one piece of what you thought was bad, thank God for it, and he will bless you. " That blessing is a more positive attitude. You could do this with a marriage too. If you see that things are going bad, take one thing and try to turn it around and you will find that you start to get a more positive attitude.
In celebration of World Day of Prayer, I would like to Thank God that you are here. We are all working together to get through these small stages of adjusting together. I know today’s article is short but I am waiting to hear from you. What changes are you going through? What is that little piece that you are thankful for? Let us know and we will all pray and be thankful with you.
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Article submitted Monday, June 28, 2010 & read 5 times.
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