Food for thought Fun fact tips about Online Dating for women

I am 35 single and looking. So from time to time I like to bless a man with my presence by going on a date. I let him embrace the essence of my aromatic sweet smelling perfume, winning conversation, and timeless beauty. For real it's so true.  We as women have to be confident these days. Ok, now back to the business at hand. I am very particular about who I spend my time with. I'm over the whole serial dating thing or saying well he is paying and I don't have anything better to do. I know we have all done that. Hectic work schedules, traffic time, and doggie time, puts a limit on my social life during the week. So, I date online. I know, I know, I know. But really it is not as bad as one would think. I think in some communities (predominately African-American and Spanish) still has tainted views about dating online. It's not only for white folks anymore. Online dating has become increasingly popular. We have to get out of that ashamed mentality. I will admit that I am still guilty of telling people Oh I met him through a friend when asked "Where did you meet him?" Failing to mention this dear friend is BlackPeopleMeet.com or Plentyoffish.com. Not every man online should be featured on DATELINE's how to catch a predator. Ladies we need to reach the masses. There are so many future husbands, boyfriends, and baby daddy's so little time. We have to get down to business. I'm breaking through the color barrier, love has no color, and there are no color lines for me. I am what you would call an EOD Equal Opportunity Dater... uhm hmm when you’re 35+ years old, single with no kids. The expiration date on those eggs are coming up sweetheart. I probably have a good 15-20 left. I have to make my time count. Besides my girlfriend Candy met her boo online and he is as normal as any man you would meet at a gas station, grocery store, barbershop, IHOP, or library. They have been together for 2-3 yrs. Essence Atkins from the show Half & Half met her HUSBAND (had to cap that) on Match.com. Don't sleep on this method it is obviously working for some. Why not make things easier for yourself? It's almost like ordering a pizza online. You go through all of the different types/styles thick crust, thin crust, light sauce, extra cheese, sausage, and pepperoni. I'm getting hungry just thinking about it. Anyway you get my meaning. Now order yourself a man online, tall, spiritual, athletic, bald, 35, sense of humor, kids/no kids. The choice is yours without even leaving your house. Good thing for that because I have looked a hot mess many of night ordering up a man and a pizza. I didn't even have to put my bad freak' em girl dress on either. Now much like a delivered pizza sometimes they don't always get the order right. Put simply there are some grenades, Gary gross-gag me with a spoon types, WTF are you serious dude types, Where is Ashton Kutcher... because I MUST be on Pranked types, and Wow I think I just threw-up in my mouth a lil’ bit types out there. Most of them don't even know they are tore up from the floor up. Side Bar, guys if you are shaped like the Refrigerator Perry this does NOT make you athletic, okay moving right along. Ladies here are a few common sense tips or fun facts to help you on your online journey:

1. BE SELECTIVE! Just because a guy wants to take you out does not mean you have to go. Have a little pride in yourself. Just say no sometimes. Another tagalong tip is not to make yourself available all of the time Even if you’re not busy make him think you are a social butterfly who's dating other guys.

2. Don't be so quick to tell a man where you live and who you live with aka that you live alone. If a guy always wants to come over to your house especially after you all have just met. He is a loser. Say, "Loser Kick Rocks." PUBLIC, PUBLIC, PUBLIC (meet in a PUBLIC place). Matter fact just drive your own cart.

3. Exchange a few emails first if the Vibe is cool give him your number. If he does not call you within 24 hrs say "Loser Kick Rocks." Notice I said call, Not a text, MMS, SMS, message in a bottle, or note by way of pigeon.  Say call with me ladies. He should be pressed to hear your voice and even more pressed to take you out. If he is not eager to talk to you tell him to “kick rocks."

4. At the end of the day you are a lady. The lady does not pay for the first date. I'm going to even venture out there and say don't pay for the first 3 dates. Do not go Dutch (betta-not even offer). I made that mistake 1x and the guy was like okay and proceeded to let me pay for half of the check. After I picked my face up I took my big girl pill and paid my half. Needless to say that was the last time we eva eva eva went out and he was renamed and better known as "the guy that didn't pay for Brunch that day" to all of my female friends.

5. Make sure that the guy is smiling in at least one of his pictures. There is nothing worse than getting to the date and discovering he has Gold teeth, rotten teeth, or even worse than that NO teeth. .Now as you are looking at that raggedy mouth you’re wondering is he on drugs? Is he currently working? Does he need to be put on your insurance? Exactly how much could his deductible? Is he in financial trouble, I know it's a recession but c'mon.  A man with a “yuck mouth” has so many interpretations. Just to name a couple he does not don't care about hygiene (dirty little hamster!) and a lack of security. Yes a lack of security - Let me explain. Any man that you are interested in should have a job with medical benefits (which includes DENTAL). Benefits equal stability and security on a certain level. It means you have at least been on your job passed the probationary period (food for thought). This could also mean you are responsible guy that goes to work every day.

 
I know this blog seems a bit silly but it gets the message across, I hope. Bottom line take a little time to get to know the person you are chatting online with. Dating for that special person is your job that will have the ultimate pay off. Now go off and date online people.

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