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Relationship Communication - Why Listening Will Empower You and Deepen the Connection With Your Man
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Relationship communication consists of more than just words. We communicate all sorts of messages with our actions, our body language and our tone of voice amongst other things. It is important that you use your intuition and common sense to learn what a man is really trying to communicate to you during relationships. Despite this, one of the most important skills that you can develop to help you in your relationship communication is that of listening. Listening to what your man is really telling you will empower you in dating and relationships, ensure your man is right for you, and help you to communicate with him on a deeper, more satisfying level.
Listening is not the same as hearing. Most of us don't really listen. We are bombarded with information every day and it becomes a habit to let most of this pass us by. We are busy with our own agenda, trying to get our own needs met and make the world fit in with what we want. We only hear the things we want to hear and filter out the rest. This is especially true where we have worries and fears that we don't want to face up to, and this is often the case in our relationships.
When something happens in our relationship that we don't really like, how often do we try to listen to what our man is really saying? We march ahead towards our own goals, trying desperately to cling on to the relationship as we want it to be. We have all sorts of strategies to avoid listening such as getting upset or not speaking when we don't hear what we want to hear. When we do allow him to speak, we judge what he says immediately and quickly defend our own point of view, instead of allowing him to explain and trying to understand how he really feels or what he really wants.
But if we let go of our own point of view for a short time and stop to really listen to what our man is trying to tell us, from his own side, we will find that our relationships improve enormously. He will start to feel safe to express his own feelings rather than trying to suppress them to avoid causing us pain. He will feel safe to open up to us, allowing for a whole deeper level of communication and connection between us.
You see, an important part of listening to our man is accepting that he has a right to how he feels and what he wants, and ensuring that we don't ride roughshod over it. Often when we experience conflict we are so busy feeling our own upset that we forget to listen and simply try to steer the conversation so that we hear the things that make us feel better. But we are not children and we cannot expect everything in life to go the way we want it. When we really listen, hear, understand and accept what our partner is saying then the conflict in our relationship reduces.
Of course, this also puts us in a position of power. When we learn to listen long enough to find out what his feelings really are, we can make sound decisions based on the truth of what our man really wants, rather than continually trying to get him to want what we want. We don't have to waste our time trying to convince him to want the same as we do. We may prefer to spend our time looking for someone who wants the same out of life as us. When we hear him say that he is not looking for a committed relationship at this moment in time or that he doesn't want to get married or to have children, we can base our decisions for the future of our relationship on these truths.
So, listen to empower yourself and deepen your relationship connection. Because when you can listen and accept, he can be himself because you are not trying to manipulate him into something that you want. He won't feel pressurised and he will feel able to open up to you. This freedom and space is like a breath of fresh air to a man. When you offer this within your relationship, a man will often see that you are one special kind of woman, the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. When you learn to listen, you can connect with a man on a deeper level and have the satisfying, rewarding relationship that you long for.
If you want a strong, loving relationship, then you need to understand what really makes a man feel good. There is a certain type of woman that a man is irresistibly attracted to. She knows how to captivate him and communicate with him to draw him close and get him to respond in the ways that she wants. You can learn to be the type of woman that men adore and never want to leave. For more information on how to keep a relationship strong please feel free to visit my website.
Article submitted Friday, July 22, 2011 & read 6 times.
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