How To Make Your Disabled Child Go To School

                    "How to make your disabled child go to school"


"Over protection often causes more handicaps for a disabled child than the underlying health condition itself. ...Your over protection is magnified by your anxieties, fears, and often by an unwarranted sense of guilt.  These are normal reactions, but they may deprive your child of the rewards of having tried and been successful." (John.F.Freeman M.D.)

There are millions even trillions of people in this world everyone belongs to different sects/ caste/ creed and religion but there is one thing that is common among all us humans throughout the world can you guess what it can be? No I am not preparing you for a quiz but in fact making you pay attention to such a truth which cannot be denied by anyone what so ever and that single thread among us is PAIN, SORROW, which makes us feel for each other no matter where we live when ever we hear about a natural disaster in some countries the other countries/states /cities show compassion towards the effective party.

But pain and sorrow can be felt in different forms and types for example there is pain in illnesses, natural disasters, accidents, broken marriages and death to name a few but what I am emphasizing over here is pain which is a life long pain of parents having special/disabled children /child.

I can fully understand their suffering of day and nights because my family has gone through it due to me not that I am an valid or a special child but have cerebral palsy of a minor type which makes me stand in the slightly disabled category , please excuse me for blowing my own trumpet here but my aim is to send a message through my humble article to all the families having special/disabled child/children to first become strong themselves only then they will be able to give courage to their child I know it’s a killer to see your flesh and blood suffering either not being able to walk/ talk / understand/ hear/ see/ or being mentally handicapped is not a minor issue. You and I know quite well that this world is a cruel place and it's getting worse day by day so why hide indoors and feel shy / embarrassed to be seen with your child try to transfer this strength of yours to the special child of yours and your spouse also.

Try your best to make the child feel normal if people stare at you ask you questions which might pinch you children making fun of the child when sent to a school its not going to be easy at all for you and the child but make the most of what you have rather then making the child feel dejected and depressed every child has feelings and instincts like normal people but due to his/her disability he/she is a SPECIAL CHILD.

My family treated me normal as if nothing is wrong with me they took me out with my other older brothers I was brought up like my other 2 brothers and by the grace of God  I am a lawyer now and a writer having published a book in my country. Who ever is reading my article might be having a cousin, friend, employee, aunt, uncle who has a disabled/special child at their house so after reading my article give that person whom you know to get strong and be ready to face the world out their because a defeatist attitude is like loosing a battle even when you have not started the war.

Accompany your child to school every morning if its necessary but let the child fight his own battles he/she will be laughed at, bullied, pushed at, or even called names at times do not fight for your child teach him or her how to defend him/herself now you must be thinking how can a special child defend him/herself?
I must be insane to be even mentioning such a thing but to be honest this can be done by training the child at home what is a good touch and a bad touch and how to react to it. And trust me this child must be possessing a talent which is not seen in normal children which might be making others jealous because they do not have that skill.

Taking the opportunity at hand encourage the child to practice that skill of his/her as much as possible and then after a few years if you feel his/her skill should be announced publicly then by all means do not wait for anything make your child a star even if he/she is not normal, now over here I will have to draw a line here there are some children who are just vegetables for those parents/families I would like to give a message to them that please do not loose hope /faith in God even if your child is not responding at all (God forbid) read a newspaper to him/her every morning talk to this child even if he is not replying you back.

It sure is nerve wrecking to talk to someone who cannot even move but remember what ever vibes are being sent to your child will be stored in his/her mind although its not visible but it sure is to leave a trace on his/her mind, life is never fair with anyone of us we all our running after desires no one is completely happy or satisfied because if God gave everything to the humans without depriving them of something or another then who would call out to him and ask him for help.

Special schools can also make your child some what independent in some way or another handling such a child 24/7 is not easy but again life is never fair to us try to keep a reinforcement for your child even if he/she has a tough day at school treat the child to his favorite movie/ food/ maybe a small present will also do wonders this act of reinforcement will definitely give you positive results sooner or later another important thing to do for such a child is to make him/her financially sound as life is unpredictable make the child secure if not by marriage then by financial comfort.

Do not run from your responsibilities face the dragon and head for it right away yes being special /disabled the child will have mood swings good or bad make a border line for the child and if crossed its limits then scold as if you would if the child was normal.

Education is not only the basic right of normal children but of disabled /special children also if your child is a nobody today fight till the last drop of blood in your body to make him/her into a somebody because "Disability is the Inability to see Ability”
(Vikas Khanna).