" Why Is My Husband a Sadist Is It An Addictive Behavior?

    "Why is my husband a sadist is it an addictive behavior"?
                                      Health (addictive behaviors)


“Fuck! Is one expected to be a gentleman when one is stiff?”
(? Donatien-Alphonse-François de Sade)

Not me only there are many women who will agree with me that yes, sex is a basic instinct of both men and women but there is a point when a line should be drawn in sex also many women love wild /rough sex but not to the extent of being physically abused no woman even a prostitute would love a rough sex all night with leaving her black and blue in the morning.

But sadly so especially in Pakistan and maybe in other parts of the countries there are wives who are beaten nearly to death when their husbands have sex with them if they scream and shout this does not stop the man but in fact it excites the brain cells of the husband and he gets even rougher and wilder then before leaving the woman gasping for breaths and mercy from the man who turns into a vicious monster when ever night falls.

Sex should be an act of love enjoyed by both the partners but not in most cases where the wife is uses as a commodity an not a living breathing human like the man who calls himself the husband of this woman who cannot disclose the deeper darker secrets of her bedroom again especially in Pakistan firstly because not every woman is accepted by her family if she breaks her marriage especially if she already has a child/children this divorce stigma is not considered in our society so as a result the woman has no option left but to bear the sexual sadism of her husband called love making by her husband.

Sexual sadism: Individuals with sexual sadism disorder have persistent fantasies in which sexual excitement results from inflicting psychological or physical suffering (including humiliation and terror) on a sexual partner. This disorder is different from minor acts of aggression in normal sexual activity; for example, rough sex. In some cases, sexual sadists are able to find willing partners to participate in the sadistic activities.
At its most extreme, sexual sadism involves illegal activities such as rape, torture, and even murder, in which case the death of the victim produces sexual excitement. It should be noted that while rape may be an expression of sexual sadism, the infliction of suffering is not the motive for most rapists, and the victim's pain generally does not increase the rapist's sexual excitement. Rather, rape involves a combination of sex and gaining power over the victim. These individuals need intensive psychiatric treatment and may be jailed for these activities. (Source   (www.medicinenet.com)    

If the woman is lucky she keeps on surviving this agony of love making every night with no one too help her neither from her families side (a) because she is too shy too disclose such an issue to someone in her family and if she does by chance she is told to bear what is written in her fate very few are brave enough too make it public and they break such a marriage with good reddens to bad rubbish attitude. (b) The woman does not get any emotional support from her in laws because of which she is forced to take what is dished out to her from the son and a brother of that family end of the chapter.

As I write on other sites as well I once wrote a poem on a site referring too women abuse which I would like to share with all my readers around the world maybe I am able to touch the sore part of a woman's heart who ever and where ever she is reading this article of mine .

     I am a woman
 
 
As I sit on my bed feeling numb from inside,
Having scattered thoughts in my mind. “Oh! Why you beat me so much”? Last night it was a belt, just now it was your fists and kicks, I am nothing else but pain
All over, having a black eye and bruises on my body you say you love me madly but my oozing blood
From my lips makes me disbelieve you, I am a wife
 
On paper, but a punching bag for you
your touch hurts me, brings tears in my eyes
I wince but cannot utter a word, am I a toy?
Or a human being like you? Who eats, sleeps and
Breaths s change its course?
Am I a failure as a wife, a human being or then
being a woman only?
Now I want to give you pain the way you
Have hurt me and then scream back at
YOU “LEARN TO RESPECT ME, IAM
NOT YOUR RAG DOLL, I AM A WOMAN.”